Wedding Vows


Ten Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

Here are ten tips that you can use when writing the words for your wedding. Feel free to print this sheet and use it as you compose your vows.

Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
() Two brains are better than one. You will most likely brainstorm more ideas to choose from when you separate for the writing part. When you come together to practice, you can talk about what you wrote.
() Use strong words. Verbs like, honor, cherish, promise, pledge are stronger and more passionate than words like are, was, and other forms of to be. See the list below for words that will make your vow come to life.
() Ask essential questions about each other’s values before writing – make sure you are both on the same page. What have you learned from each other? Where did you meet? Are there previous marriages on either side? What did you learn from those and how will you make this one different?
() Be personal, but not too personal. You do want your vows to have meaning, but remember your wedding is a public event. Keep decisions such as child rearing details and financial responsibilities to private discussions at home. 
() Throughout this guide, you have seen a variety of traditional phrases. Some are very repetitive. The best vows use these old phrases and your own words together. 
() Don’t be too long: 1-3 minutes is ideal.
() Consult many sources, including this guide but also reading favorite poetry passages, inspirational quotes, bible passages, and love stories will help. Old love letters and notes to each other might spark some original thought about why and how the two of you found each other.
() Practice, practice, practice – read vows aloud several times to yourself and your fiancé. If something isn’t working or does sound they way you want it to, chances are you should change it before the ceremony.
() Carry your vows with you to the altar. Nerves will probably dominate on the big day. You will want to have a “back up plan.” Type what you will say clearly and keep it in your pocket to be ready for an accidental memory lapse.
() Keep it honest. If you write from your heart and say what’s on your mind, you’ll be fine.

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